CEO --Chief Embezzlement Officer.
CFO-- Corporate Fraud Officer.
BULL MARKET -- A random market movement causing an investor to
mistake himself for a financial genius.
VALUE INVESTING -- The art of buying low and selling lower.
P/E RATIO -- The percentage ofi nvestors wetting their pants
as the market keeps crashing.
BROKER -- What my broker has made me.
STANDARD & POOR -- Your life in a nutshell.
STOCK ANALYST -- Idiot who just down graded your stock.
STOCK SPLIT -- When your ex-wife and her lawyer split your assets equally between themselves.
FINANCIAL PLANNER -- A guy whose phone has been disconnected.
MARKET CORRECTION -- The day after you buy stocks.
CASH FLOW-- The movement your money makes as it disappears down the toilet.
YAHOO -- What you yell after selling it to some poor sucker for $240 per share.
WINDOWS -- What you jump out of when you're the sucker who bought Yahoo @ $240 per share.
INSTITUTIONAL INVESTOR -- Past year investor who's now locked up in a nuthouse. PROFIT -- An archaic word no longer in use
Monday, April 27, 2009
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
A NOT FUNNY ADVICE COLUMN
CRITICIZE SPOUSE TACTFULLY
by Orson Scott Card
They're at a party or dinner. The husband starts to tell a joke. The wife immediately snaps, "Oh, don't tell them that old story." The husband falls silent with an embarrassed grin. Or the wife has just made a comment in Sunday School, and the husband says, "What she meant to say was ... " and corrects her. She looks abashed ... or angry. They criticize each other's taste in clothing or in food, they demean each other's intelligence, they tell unflattering stories about each other.
We've all met a married couple like this. They embarrass everyone around them. Yet still they persist in this pattern of public criticism. And yet there are times when love requires that you say unpleasant or difficult things to a spouse. Think of the question "Do I look fat in this? "What that sentence really means is, "I'm really anxious about my appearance and I need your reassurance that I shouldn't be embarrassed to go out." And so the answer usually should be, "You look wonderful. That color is great on you."
Sometimes, though, there are unflattering things that your spouse can't see. For their sake, you have to say careful things like, "I'm not sure you'll really be comfortable with how much your underwear shows through," or, "Maybe you want a slip," or, "I think you'll be happier wearing something else." (This last one only works if there is something else to wear.)
Most of the time, though, even if there is a problem it's not so serious that you need to tackle it right then. When your spouse is anxious before an event is not the best time to break the news that a particular outfit does not look good. You have to ask yourself: Right now, does she need confidence or advice on clothing? This is when when your spouse [has initiated] the criticism by asking a question.
When your criticism is uninvited, it is all the more important to be careful about when and where:
1. Never in front of anyone else, not even the children. And by "never," I mean NEVER. This is one of the hardest rules to follow for those who have the criticism habit. But why is it so hard? It's not because your spouse needs to be stopped right now -- that only applies if he's about to break some precious object, or the law. Most of the time, one spouse criticizes the other because the criticizer feels the anxiety of embarrassment. One spouse is ashamed of the other and criticizes publicly in order to make that feeling of anxiety go away. It is a selfish act by the criticizer, a desire to show that he (or she) is not part of the actions or words of the other. It reveals that your fear of embarrassment is stronger than your loyalty to your mate.
2. No matter how embarrassing your spouse is, publicly criticizing or demeaning is almost always worse. It's like that moment in "Pride and Prejudice" when Mr. Bennett publicly stops his daughter Mary from boring everyone at a party with yet another lengthy and mediocre piano solo. He meant to spare everyone the tedium of listening, but instead he caused them the greater discomfort of watching him mortify his daughter in public.
3. No one should hear criticism on the day of the performance. When someone has just done something they felt anxious about, one ounce of criticism will outweigh three tons of praise. There is no criticism of something that has already happened that cannot wait until the next day. "But I might forget it if I wait till tomorrow!" Exactly. If it's so trivial that you don't remember it the next day, it doesn't need to be said at all.
4. Pick a safe and neutral time. You're alone. You're not in a rush to do anything else. You're at peace with each other. Now you can say: "My most adored and beloved spouse, you are still the most handsome/beautiful person in the world to me. But I think that it is time for you to stop wearing: (a) shirts that tuck in, (b) form-fitting tops that reveal every contour of your underwear from behind, (c) shirts that are so short that when you bend over or squat, people start looking for the proctologist, or (d) that old toupee that no longer matches any part of your surviving hair." This applies to jokes they tell, the level of gossip they share, how they talk about the children in front of others or even how much and when they criticize you. It will still not be easy for them to hear it -- but at least you're alone and you're not causing any public shame. Your criticism has a real chance to be constructive instead of destructive.
Remember that the Lord says reproof should be accompanied by reassurance that your love is stronger than the bands of death.
Orson Scott Card is a writer of nonfiction and fiction, from LDS works to popular fiction. His column appeas weekly in the Deseret News and Mormon Times.
by Orson Scott Card
They're at a party or dinner. The husband starts to tell a joke. The wife immediately snaps, "Oh, don't tell them that old story." The husband falls silent with an embarrassed grin. Or the wife has just made a comment in Sunday School, and the husband says, "What she meant to say was ... " and corrects her. She looks abashed ... or angry. They criticize each other's taste in clothing or in food, they demean each other's intelligence, they tell unflattering stories about each other.
We've all met a married couple like this. They embarrass everyone around them. Yet still they persist in this pattern of public criticism. And yet there are times when love requires that you say unpleasant or difficult things to a spouse. Think of the question "Do I look fat in this? "What that sentence really means is, "I'm really anxious about my appearance and I need your reassurance that I shouldn't be embarrassed to go out." And so the answer usually should be, "You look wonderful. That color is great on you."
Sometimes, though, there are unflattering things that your spouse can't see. For their sake, you have to say careful things like, "I'm not sure you'll really be comfortable with how much your underwear shows through," or, "Maybe you want a slip," or, "I think you'll be happier wearing something else." (This last one only works if there is something else to wear.)
Most of the time, though, even if there is a problem it's not so serious that you need to tackle it right then. When your spouse is anxious before an event is not the best time to break the news that a particular outfit does not look good. You have to ask yourself: Right now, does she need confidence or advice on clothing? This is when when your spouse [has initiated] the criticism by asking a question.
When your criticism is uninvited, it is all the more important to be careful about when and where:
1. Never in front of anyone else, not even the children. And by "never," I mean NEVER. This is one of the hardest rules to follow for those who have the criticism habit. But why is it so hard? It's not because your spouse needs to be stopped right now -- that only applies if he's about to break some precious object, or the law. Most of the time, one spouse criticizes the other because the criticizer feels the anxiety of embarrassment. One spouse is ashamed of the other and criticizes publicly in order to make that feeling of anxiety go away. It is a selfish act by the criticizer, a desire to show that he (or she) is not part of the actions or words of the other. It reveals that your fear of embarrassment is stronger than your loyalty to your mate.
2. No matter how embarrassing your spouse is, publicly criticizing or demeaning is almost always worse. It's like that moment in "Pride and Prejudice" when Mr. Bennett publicly stops his daughter Mary from boring everyone at a party with yet another lengthy and mediocre piano solo. He meant to spare everyone the tedium of listening, but instead he caused them the greater discomfort of watching him mortify his daughter in public.
3. No one should hear criticism on the day of the performance. When someone has just done something they felt anxious about, one ounce of criticism will outweigh three tons of praise. There is no criticism of something that has already happened that cannot wait until the next day. "But I might forget it if I wait till tomorrow!" Exactly. If it's so trivial that you don't remember it the next day, it doesn't need to be said at all.
4. Pick a safe and neutral time. You're alone. You're not in a rush to do anything else. You're at peace with each other. Now you can say: "My most adored and beloved spouse, you are still the most handsome/beautiful person in the world to me. But I think that it is time for you to stop wearing: (a) shirts that tuck in, (b) form-fitting tops that reveal every contour of your underwear from behind, (c) shirts that are so short that when you bend over or squat, people start looking for the proctologist, or (d) that old toupee that no longer matches any part of your surviving hair." This applies to jokes they tell, the level of gossip they share, how they talk about the children in front of others or even how much and when they criticize you. It will still not be easy for them to hear it -- but at least you're alone and you're not causing any public shame. Your criticism has a real chance to be constructive instead of destructive.
Remember that the Lord says reproof should be accompanied by reassurance that your love is stronger than the bands of death.
Orson Scott Card is a writer of nonfiction and fiction, from LDS works to popular fiction. His column appeas weekly in the Deseret News and Mormon Times.
Friday, April 10, 2009
the funny farm AND EVERYTHING YOU HAVE ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW ABOUT THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE
A "jiffy" is an actual unit of time for 1/100th of a second.
"Dreamt" is the only English word that ends in the letters "mt".
Maine is the only state whose name is just one syllable.
No word in the English language rhymes with month, orange, silver,
or purple.
"Stewardesses" is the longest word typed with only the left hand
and "lollipop" with your right.
The sentence: "The quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog" uses
every letter of the alphabet. (You alaready knew that didn't you?).
The words 'racecar,' 'kayak' and 'level' are plaindromes (the same whether they
are read left to right or right to left).
There are only four words in the English language which end in
"dous": tremendous, horrendous, stupendous, and hazardous
There are two words in the English language that have all five
vowels in order: "abstemious" and "facetious."
TYPEWRITER is the longest word that can be made using the letters
only on one row of the keyboard.
"Dreamt" is the only English word that ends in the letters "mt".
Maine is the only state whose name is just one syllable.
No word in the English language rhymes with month, orange, silver,
or purple.
"Stewardesses" is the longest word typed with only the left hand
and "lollipop" with your right.
The sentence: "The quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog" uses
every letter of the alphabet. (You alaready knew that didn't you?).
The words 'racecar,' 'kayak' and 'level' are plaindromes (the same whether they
are read left to right or right to left).
There are only four words in the English language which end in
"dous": tremendous, horrendous, stupendous, and hazardous
There are two words in the English language that have all five
vowels in order: "abstemious" and "facetious."
TYPEWRITER is the longest word that can be made using the letters
only on one row of the keyboard.
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